Comments on: Egg On My Face http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/ Look up! It's A Brand New Day Sun, 15 Nov 2009 20:24:11 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Selma http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/#comment-3556 Selma Mon, 21 Jul 2008 07:43:53 +0000 http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/?p=516#comment-3556 GYPSY - I am in tears thinking about you having to go through that. I can't even write. You are truly an inspiration for coming back from such a terrible place. I wish I could have been there to help you. That point of no return is the key, isn't it? I dread what my sister will have to go through to get there. I can't tell you how grateful I am for you sharing your story and I am so, so glad you got through it. XX00XX00XX LISA - your kindness makes me feel so good. Thank you. Peace to you, my friend. GYPSY – I am in tears thinking about you having to go through that. I can’t even write. You are truly an inspiration for coming back from such a terrible place. I wish I could have been there to help you.

That point of no return is the key, isn’t it? I dread what my sister will have to go through to get there. I can’t tell you how grateful I am for you sharing your story and I am so, so glad you got through it. XX00XX00XX

LISA – your kindness makes me feel so good. Thank you. Peace to you, my friend.

]]> By: Lisa Allender http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/#comment-3552 Lisa Allender Mon, 21 Jul 2008 01:01:24 +0000 http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/?p=516#comment-3552 Hi Selma. I will be lighting a candle each day, 'til your sister sees the Light. Which I feel she will, soon. In the meantime, take care of YOU, and I agree with you-- be there of course for your Mom and family..... Peace, woman. Peace. Hi Selma. I will be lighting a candle each day, ’til your sister sees the Light. Which I feel she will, soon. In the meantime, take care of YOU, and I agree with you– be there of course for your Mom and family…..
Peace, woman. Peace.

]]> By: Gypsy http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/#comment-3544 Gypsy Sun, 20 Jul 2008 14:30:26 +0000 http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/?p=516#comment-3544 First of all Selma I'm sorry I wasn't here earlier for this and to add my voice of support. Having survived an abusive relationship myself I know all about the lying and the covering up and the protection of him...Insane isn't it? It's hard to understand from the outside looking in and I managed to hide it from EVERYONE so fortunately didn't drag anyone else down with me. I knew all along I should leave but he had destroyed my self esteem to such a degree that I honestly believed I couldn't live or survive without him. One day he starting kicking me as I was curled up in a ball on the floor and he wouldn't stop. I thought he was going to kill me and that's when I finally hit rock bottom. All I took was some clothes and so began another two years of hell as I tried to survive being penniless, in massive debt at his hands, with no self esteem and by this time a drinking problem. Why am I telling you all this? I'm hoping it will give you hope that somewhere inside your sister she knows, she just needs to find the point of no return for herself. These days...well I'm not perfect but I have managed to get my life together and I did it without anyone. I hope more than anything she sees the light before it's too late and with all of her family's support hopefully she can get her life back. You are in my thoughts Selma and I hope everything works out for all of you. Just take care of your parents and yourself until Milly is willing to help herself. First of all Selma I’m sorry I wasn’t here earlier for this and to add my voice of support.

Having survived an abusive relationship myself I know all about the lying and the covering up and the protection of him…Insane isn’t it? It’s hard to understand from the outside looking in and I managed to hide it from EVERYONE so fortunately didn’t drag anyone else down with me. I knew all along I should leave but he had destroyed my self esteem to such a degree that I honestly believed I couldn’t live or survive without him.

One day he starting kicking me as I was curled up in a ball on the floor and he wouldn’t stop. I thought he was going to kill me and that’s when I finally hit rock bottom. All I took was some clothes and so began another two years of hell as I tried to survive being penniless, in massive debt at his hands, with no self esteem and by this time a drinking problem.

Why am I telling you all this? I’m hoping it will give you hope that somewhere inside your sister she knows, she just needs to find the point of no return for herself.

These days…well I’m not perfect but I have managed to get my life together and I did it without anyone. I hope more than anything she sees the light before it’s too late and with all of her family’s support hopefully she can get her life back.

You are in my thoughts Selma and I hope everything works out for all of you. Just take care of your parents and yourself until Milly is willing to help herself.

]]> By: Selma http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/#comment-3542 Selma Sun, 20 Jul 2008 13:01:52 +0000 http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/?p=516#comment-3542 HOLLY - I try to take comfort in the fact that she knows I love her, but it is really tough to leave her to it. I know you understand how hard it is. Thanks for your help and support. PAISLEY - I completely agree with you. My Mum and I were talking about this today and decided we would continue to see her on a regular basis but without the husband. It's just too stressful to be in the same room with him. And you're right, it is acceptance and it is necessary. ROSHAN -awww, you are going to make me cry. You are such a lovely person. I'm so sorry you're going through that with your friend. I know how hard it is. Take care of yourself. HOLLY – I try to take comfort in the fact that she knows I love her, but it is really tough to leave her to it. I know you understand how hard it is. Thanks for your help and support.

PAISLEY – I completely agree with you. My Mum and I were talking about this today and decided we would continue to see her on a regular basis but without the husband. It’s just too stressful to be in the same room with him. And you’re right, it is acceptance and it is necessary.

ROSHAN -awww, you are going to make me cry. You are such a lovely person. I’m so sorry you’re going through that with your friend. I know how hard it is. Take care of yourself.

]]> By: Roshan http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/#comment-3536 Roshan Sun, 20 Jul 2008 02:48:30 +0000 http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/?p=516#comment-3536 And its not egg on ur face sweetie. U r an angel as far as I am concerned. And its not egg on ur face sweetie. U r an angel as far as I am concerned.

]]> By: Roshan http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/#comment-3535 Roshan Sun, 20 Jul 2008 02:47:01 +0000 http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/?p=516#comment-3535 I don't what I can add that the others haven't already said. I do know how it feels, because even if she isn't family, my friend is going through the same thing. She just refuses to believe that the scumbag she is married to will never change and he is a drug addict & criminal to boot. It has taken a lot out of me but I had to let go and give her space. I still talk to her when she wants me to but I have let her know that everything is her decision. I don’t what I can add that the others haven’t already said. I do know how it feels, because even if she isn’t family, my friend is going through the same thing. She just refuses to believe that the scumbag she is married to will never change and he is a drug addict & criminal to boot. It has taken a lot out of me but I had to let go and give her space. I still talk to her when she wants me to but I have let her know that everything is her decision.

]]> By: paisley http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/#comment-3534 paisley Sun, 20 Jul 2008 01:01:28 +0000 http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/?p=516#comment-3534 having only ever experienced this from your sisters perspective, i know it isn't over till its over,, (and even then, it never really dies)and nothing you say or do or wish or pray for will make one iota of difference.. it will either explode or burn out, of its own accord,, and the better off you will be if you allowed yourself a relationship with your sister outside of her relationship with her ex... it is the only way selma,, acceptance,, overlooking,, but acceptance none the less.. having only ever experienced this from your sisters perspective, i know it isn’t over till its over,, (and even then, it never really dies)and nothing you say or do or wish or pray for will make one iota of difference.. it will either explode or burn out, of its own accord,, and the better off you will be if you allowed yourself a relationship with your sister outside of her relationship with her ex… it is the only way selma,, acceptance,, overlooking,, but acceptance none the less..

]]> By: HollyGL http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/#comment-3530 HollyGL Sat, 19 Jul 2008 15:45:04 +0000 http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/?p=516#comment-3530 I was going to say - before reading some of the other comments - that perhaps you should consider walking away. I know its an unbelievably difficult thing to do, but its so true that she is the only one who can make a significant change. And it won't happen until she reaches rock bottom. Gosh, this is so tough for you and your family, I know. You're making the right call all the way around. She knows you love her. That's the most important thing. I was going to say – before reading some of the other comments – that perhaps you should consider walking away. I know its an unbelievably difficult thing to do, but its so true that she is the only one who can make a significant change. And it won’t happen until she reaches rock bottom. Gosh, this is so tough for you and your family, I know. You’re making the right call all the way around. She knows you love her. That’s the most important thing.

]]> By: Selma http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/#comment-3521 Selma Sat, 19 Jul 2008 05:50:06 +0000 http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/?p=516#comment-3521 MELEAH - I have to. I really think if I don't I'm going to crack up. It's not healthy really to feel so stressed. I almost feel cruel saying it but my sister has to sort this out for herself. Thanks for your support. MELEAH – I have to. I really think if I don’t I’m going to crack up. It’s not healthy really to feel so stressed. I almost feel cruel saying it but my sister has to sort this out for herself. Thanks for your support.

]]> By: meleah rebeccah http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/egg-on-my-face/#comment-3518 meleah rebeccah Sat, 19 Jul 2008 05:26:48 +0000 http://selmainthecity.wordpress.com/?p=516#comment-3518 good. I am glad that YOU are smart enough to walk away. xxoo good. I am glad that YOU are smart enough to walk away.

xxoo

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