Comments on: Moments Of Sadness

By: Selma

Selma — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 08:47:12 +0000

KATE – I have been remiss. Sorry for the late response. That is such a good idea. Mel and I are going to do it. We have already spoken to the kids about it and they are very keen. Will keep you posted.

ROSHAN – it is sad and of course I’ll give her a hug from you. You are so sweet.

By: Roshan

Roshan — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 18:26:23 +0000

It’s a sad story Selma, but I love the way you write. I can’t help but feel sad for that little girl. Will you give her a big hug from me?

By: kate

kate — Thu, 29 May 2008 14:21:10 +0000

Is there a way to record the loving things that Andie did for her kids? If someone would spend time with the kids and find out the things that meant much to them, then they could be written up … just so the children will have these memories stay with them.

By: Selma

Selma — Thu, 29 May 2008 12:33:25 +0000

ANTHONY – that really makes sense. I’m glad you have fond memories of your Mum. So glad.

TBALL – you’re right. If only we could find a cure. XX

By: tball

tball — Thu, 29 May 2008 01:20:58 +0000

Oh Selma, what a sad story… I wish cancer just didn’t exist… it has taken too many people who still had so much living to do just like your friend, Andie.

By: anthonynorth

anthonynorth — Wed, 28 May 2008 15:01:12 +0000

By that, I mean to remember her how she was, before.

By: anthonynorth

anthonynorth — Wed, 28 May 2008 14:53:08 +0000

Hi Selma,
Thanks for the hug! Forty years on, to remember is a kind of nice nostalgia. Comforting.
Does that make sense?

By: Selma

Selma — Wed, 28 May 2008 12:46:48 +0000

KAYT – thank you so much for your lovely words. I am really grateful to you.

By: Kayt

Kayt — Wed, 28 May 2008 01:21:19 +0000

You are so right. All the little things that sneak up on you when you are least prepared and embed themselves deep in your being become the texture of one’s consciousness and consequently, sometimes the catalysts of our grief. The receiver to your ear before you remember no one is on the end of the line anymore, the bird in the garden, that familiar breath missing as you drift off to sleep. My heart goes out to everyone in this difficult situation, and blessings to you for being there for your friends.

By: Selma

Selma — Tue, 27 May 2008 23:57:19 +0000

ANTHONY – I am so sorry you lost your mother at such a young age. I hope this post didn’t make you feel too sad. The everyday things do seem to help, for sure. I have to send you a virtual (((hug))) upon hearing that. I had no idea. Take care.

KAREN – you are absolutely right. That is such an important point. By trying to be everything Andie was he is just adding to his grief and denying his children the parts of himself they truly need. I like the idea of the new activity. That is brilliant. What a thoughtful person you are. Thank you.

MELEAH – when I see that little girl… I can’t begin to tell you. My heart breaks. I will do as much as I can for her. She is a sweetie.